Intentions trump resolutions– you are not a problem to be solved.

Hello from the other side– otherwise known as 2016! (I hope you read that in Adele’s angelic voice).

And I’ll say it again– HELLO! Let’s call a spade a spade; I’ve been bad. My posting schedule died out quicker than an iPhone 4’s battery life, and I’m sorry. So here is my first post back on the blog road trip– cheers to me trying to be better!

Speaking of cheers, I hope you all had a blast ringing in the new year! Whether you stood with the masses in NYC, headed out to the bars with friends, or hung out with bae (as in Netflix because that’s where all my bae’s reside), I hope the evening of new hope and wishful anticipation was all it’s cracked up to be.

Along with the the partying and good spirit of NYE comes the well-debated tradition of resolutions.

Whether you’re one of those “New year, new me” folks or you sit on the other end of the spectrum at “I don’t need a new year to change because I wake up with excessive will power and motivation every day of the year”, I think we can all agree that resolutions are always made with the one’s heart in the right place and should be encouraged no matter what time of year.

But let’s think about the word “resolution”. The word actually has two meanings:

res·o·lu·tion

ˌrezəˈlo͞oSH(ə)n/

noun

1. a firm decision to do or not to do something

 

2. the action of solving a problem, dispute, or contentious matter.

Let’s talk about these definitions:

  1. A firm decision. Now normally I wouldn’t have a problem with this, but let’s ponder the consequences from setting a resolution in this capacity. Say by the end of 2016 you’ve realized that you’ve failed to complete some or maybe any of the resolutions you set in January. Calling it a resolution (firm decision) adds unnecessary pressure on yourself throughout the year, and can result in an intense sense of failure– who wants to feel that?
  2. THE ACTION OF SOLVING A PROBLEM: Now THIS is the biggest issue I have.

YOU ARE NOT A PROBLEM. REPEAT. YOU ARE NOT A PROBLEM.

You, my friend, are not a problem to be resolved. I beg of you to stop making resolutions to fix all the things that you think are wrong with you; “I’m too fat; I’m not smart enough; I’m not pretty enough; I’m not this, I’m not that, I’m not enough.” HI, YOU ARE ENOUGH. You’re not a problem, and you’re enough.

With that being said, we of course can always improve on all the amazing things we already are. So I urge you, make goals, make changes! But don’t call them something that just end up being destructive.

 

This is exactly why I’ve set 2016 intentions.

Same idea, kinder language = happier human.

 

Alright, I’ll hop off my soapbox now. May your 2016 be filled with happiness, and may everything you do have intention.

 

thrive & be bold.

xx

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